A: Relocating is difficult, but for children it can be overwhelming, especially if they are moving from the only home they have ever known and leaving their friends, teachers and community. When helping my clients with relocation, I suggest that they involve their children in the planning as soon as possible. Children need time to process changes and involving them will help them to not feel powerless.
Whether you will be purchasing a home or renting, include them in the decision making regarding what type of neighborhood they would like to live in, how they want to decorate their new bedroom—even if that means purple walls and Justin Bieber posters—and what kind of amenities they would like to have, for example, having a garden or playroom. However, do not cave in and give up the master bedroom.
Lastly, I would recommend that the children’s bedroom be unpacked and set up prior to their arrival. It will be less stressful for them if they can settle into the new bedroom with their favorite things already out of boxes. Plan something fun for the first couple of days like testing out the local ice cream shops or parks. Remember to stay positive and make this an adventure for them.